I’m Tired of ‘Fake Deep’ Men – (Ft. Poem by Cecile Emeke)

According to social media, black women will be “winning” in 2015. Last year may have been the most politically-driven cultural era in digital media history. Race, sexuality, gender, feminism, all topics typically too taboo or sensitive to discuss openly, have become mainstream conversations. Black women, a group typically slighted, were the center of many discussions. Whether it was about our hair, body shapes, racial experiences, or relation to black men, our entire existence became political.

The black woman —  “winner of 2015” —  now a heroine, an icon, and, to many, now a character. There are still so many people (no matter the race) who refuse to consider black women as human beings — complex and varied individuals.  We are either sexual muses who can only be painted naked with massive afros  or the butt of an internet joke. We are all expected to be natural lest we subject ourselves to the accusation of “hating” ourselves. We are all expected to: have curves in “all the right places,” be educated but still ratchet, be classy but not bougie, be career driven but never selfish. Black women, apparently now praised by the masses, are still marginalized to fulfill the desire of the male gaze and the comfort of those who expect us to comfort them. We are to be seen, admired, accepted yet not heard or understood. This post is not meant to male-bash. This is a cry for people to get the fact that black women have agency over their bodies and souls.

Screenshot from “Fake Deep.”

Artist Cecile Emeke wrote an awesome poem called, “Fake Deep.” The 10-minute video poem is performed by a group of black women who perfectly express my frustration.

“This is the case of ‘fake deep.’ He is worst than your standard overt chauvinistic pig. He appears ‘smart’ and ‘educated’ if a first glance is all you give but think twice. It’s all a wolf in sheep’s clothing myth.”

This poem is specifically about men who mask their sexism with assumed appreciation. This kind of guy is quite popular in the social media world. He’ll post daily speeches on what he believe is required of a “real woman.” These posts usually start with the ever-so-annoying “Ladies:” introduction. He will tell all black women that our afro is our glory and yet shame and dehumanize black women who wear any other hairstyle.  This kind of guy claims to love us yet fails to see that love does not mean ownership. You do not own me or my identity. You can not tell me what I should be and what I should be doing.

Other amazing gems from the poem include:

“If I hear one more poem written by a man, telling women how to live their lives by policing their clothes, sexuality, make-up use, reading habits, exercise regimes and cooking skills, I’m going to slap somebody.”

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“See he’s the kind of guy who will Instagram a picture of a lion or some other African mammal, hashtag ‘Every lion needs his lioness,’ meanwhile he has left a smoking hot trail of manipulated, exploited, and broken women with no address.”

“He’s the one who talks of women as ‘pieces of art’ to be lured at by the male gaze. Of course that’s why we exist, to appease and gain your oh so great praise. And if you hop on and affirm, then you earn some cool points for enabling his ways. He’ll say you’re down. But what value is ignorance acclaim?”

Listen to this incredible poem in the video below.

Learn more about Cecile Emeke by visiting her website and Youtube.